This weekend, as I was winding down Sunday night and
thinking about my Monday work day – I was talking with my wife about various
things. The 2017 iHeartRadio Music Awards were on in the background and
we would occasionally pause to watch a bit of the show. Justin Timberlake
had just won an award for his “Can’t Stop the Feeling!” song.
A catchy tune we all have in our heads. What caught my attention
was his inspiring message about anti-bullying and the importance of
inclusion. I am not usually a big fan of celebrity messages, because they
are often staged and planned, but this message was heartfelt and (to this
listener) seemed authentic.
High school is tough enough – we all lived through the ups
and downs of adolescence. That said, I would argue the rise in bullying
and the rise in racial tensions today is making it even harder on our
kids. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young
people between the ages of 10-19. Although the percentage of U.S. high school students
who considered suicide fell by nearly half between 1991 to 2009 (from 29
percent to 14 percent), this percentage has increased slightly in recent
years. In 2011, roughly one in every six high school student considered
suicide. The data also points to important differences by gender, race,
and ethnicity. Among high school students, for example, girls are more
likely to have planned or attempted suicide than boys, while Hispanic and black
students are more likely to have attempted suicide than white students. However,
the suicide rate is over three times higher for boys than girls, and is
higher for white than for black or Hispanic youth. Further, suicide rates are
highest among Native American/Alaska Native youth compared with other
racial/ethnic groups (Child Trends – 2016). More attention should
also be paid to how a changing technology and media landscape affect a teens’
experience with bullying and mental health. Teen suicide was again in the
national news last month with the story of a Florida girl who ended her life apparently
in response to persistent cyber-bullying. Her death is just the latest in a
series of high profile cases in which a young person committed suicide
after being victimized by cyber-bullying.
I was glad to see Timberlake speak out and very pointedly
speak to being inclusive. We owe it to our next generation, whether they
are your kids or others, to build a more accepting culture. At
home, at work, with your buds in the bar. It is sad to watch the
way these negative behaviors are affecting our youth. And as he stated,
“no young people should be shunned or bullied because they are different.”
He went on to say, “I wrote this song because I wanted it to be about
inclusion, about being together. And so, I guess I want to take this opportunity
to speak to young people right now ‘cause there’s a lot of you looking at me …
If you are black or you are brown or you are gay or you are lesbian or you are
trans — or maybe you’re just a sissy singing boy from Tennessee,” Timberlake
continued, to growing applause. “Anyone that is treating you unkindly, it’s
only because they are afraid or they have been taught to be afraid of how
important you are. Because being different means you make the difference. So f—
’em.”
Being different makes the difference. As Desmond Tutu
once said, “We inhabit a universe that is characterized by diversity. There is
not just one planet or one star; there are galaxies of all different sorts, a
plethora of animal species, different kinds of plants, and different races and
ethnic groups. God shows us, even with a human body, that it is made up of
different organs performing different functions and that it is precisely that
diversity that makes it an organism. If it were only one organ, it would not be
a human body. We are constantly being made aware of the glorious diversity that
is written into the structure of the universe we inhabit, and we are helped to
see that if it were otherwise, things would go awry. How could you have a
soccer team if all were goalkeepers? How would it be an orchestra if all were
French horns?”
Make a difference, stand up and act against the behaviors
that are not kind. Together. We. Win.
If someone shows the warning signs of
suicide: Do not leave the person alone, remove any firearms, alcohol, drugs or
sharp objects that could be used in a suicide attempt, call the U.S. National
Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), and take the person to an
emergency room or seek help from a medical or mental health professional.
Dave Harmon
People Division
“Kindness is Currency”
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